So, we made it to Grand Rapids and to the home of our daughter and son-in-law. Grand Rapids is a decent size city on the west side of Michigan right along the east bank of Lake Michigan. It is a bit cold here this morning, probably about 40 degrees! I have to admit, I am not a fan of this weather. It is 68 degrees in Phoenix right now and that sounds a bit more like it!
I am hanging out with Mary and Chris who is feeling a bit ill today, and Chris and Jessica’s two dogs and two cats. The dogs are both Dachshunds. One of the dogs, Teagan, loves to play fight with one of the cats, Tender Bittles. It is fun to watch. Tender Bittles allows Teagan to believe that she has the upper hand but the cat truly is in control. He decides how long this “dog and cat” game will last and where it will take place. Tender simply goes to higher ground when he has had enough.
So Teagan runs around and yaps and jumps and barks and seems to enjoy simply being part of this whole game. She seems oblivious to the fact that she is not winning. Hmmm…I know people that are not a whole lot different than this dog and cat. They play games with each other without truly realizing the truth of the situation. What would happen if we would just speak the truth and let each other in on the secret? What if we stopped playing games in our relationships and truly were authentic and vulnerable?
Don’t get me wrong, games can be fun. The problem with games in relationships is that someone ultimately will get hurt. Maybe, it’s time to allow games to be games and relationships to be relationships.