My wife and I finished a great day together highlighted by a very good and moving movie called “War Horse.” I was in such a good mood that I agreed to hit a store on the way home. Shopping is not my favorite thing to do together!
When I say we do it together, that might be an overstatement. Normally, when we go into a store she will go her way and I will go mine. Tonight was not an exception. I headed toward the men’s clothing area and she headed toward the home goods area.
I looked for a few minutes at clothes and was ready to leave. My wife found something to put on the wall of our bedroom and then moved to another section of the store.
The key to understanding how to shop is to first decide your objective. It can mean a lot of different things to people.
In its most basic form it means you have a need for certain goods and you need to buy them. That would produce a pretty quick trip. Either they have what you need at the price you want or they don’t.
But I have learned being married to Mary that this is really a pretty crude idea of shopping, missing the entire art form surrounding shopping.
What that entails is more or less browsing the store looking for whatever might draw your attention. You may or may not buy anything at all.
In fact, the fun apparently is in the hunt, looking for that one thing that might jump out at you and stimulate your imagination.
I say all of this theoretically since I really don’t understand shopping’s art. Maybe after a few years of marriage I can get it but I doubt it.
I am truly amazed how my wife can spend hours in multiple stores and not grow weary. And, she remains unflustered if she buys nothing. She has incredible stamina!
The more I think about it the more I realize that life is more about Mary’s version of shopping versus my definition. My idea deals with the “trip” and her idea is about the “journey.”
My way gets the job done. It accomplishes the task. Her version explores the possibilities. It comes away with more satisfaction, more fulfillment.
My version of shopping requires very little imagination. Her version requires vision. Life is fuller and richer when we are not just about the destination. We were designed to enjoy the ride!